This is the first time I've read anything about what it's like to support a partner who struggles with depression. You made ME feel seen and heard because for 33 years it's always been about him. I agree... without seeing effort on his part I would find it hard to justify staying. There's been many ups and downs and really great times and really bad times. It does take a toll on the caregiver especially if you're highly sensitive like I am. This is an article that will help many!!